Or should I give him a parting thank-you note when I am released, that suggests I am open to being friends after the doctor-patient relationship ends? Transference is the psychoanalytic process by which emotions originally associated with one person are unconsciously shifted to another person, especially to the analyst or, according to your overly analytical friend, the surgeon. Genuinely nice people tend to gravitate toward pediatrics or family practice, not surgery. Surely the surgeon realized that the first time he walked into your room.
He is a genius and I could listen to him for hours.
I literally could feel my eyes dilating the last time he was examining me.
At first I was not attracted to this surgeon, in fact, I was annoyed with him and tried to change doctors. At appointments, he spent a great deal of time with me, 20-30 minutes, and did all the dirty work like cleaning incisions, bandaging, etc.
A friend told me I am suffering from transference, but I don't think so. He would sit in my room and chat about non-medical things.
It was just my leg, but I found myself admiring his hands! One of my friends says this doctor is probably just comfortable with me and uses the extra time to take a little break from the routine. I have never seen your picture, but I would bet that you are attractive.
Maybe I should just put this aside and assume if he is interested and available that he will find a time and a way to approach me? Your surgeon was initially aloof, brief, and arrogant—in other words, a typical surgeon. However, it takes a man less than a second to determine if a woman is attractive.